Monday, 29 February 2016
Thursday, 25 February 2016
pay him in money
pay him in his lost clothing
pay him in your humility
just pay him
she has to pay for her freedom
despite being too shy to have asked for her initial payment.
this page discusses the case of a husband giving his wife a divorce on certain conditions. e.g. she has to pay him a certain amount of money. or return of a garment that is lost... she has to pay. It is debated between R. Huna and R. Yehudah if the divorce is immediate or only on the fulfillment of the condition. This is compared to conditional betrothals, where it is conditional on him paying her money. In that case it is noted that the betrothal is only valid once the money is paid, as she might be too shy to ask for her money. But with this type of conditional divorce, she has to pay the money, no consideration as to how she might feel about this arrangement imposed upon her.
Wednesday, 24 February 2016
has to be seen to be believed.
but why would she want to fuck him?
even if she did it for the money,
how can he pay her for sex if he has a claim on her earnings?
what if a husband says to his wife: this is your divorce from today if I die... what is her status? and if he was dying, and makes it conditional that he does not recover from this illness, and then an unforeseen accident happens, is she divorced? and the time between issuing this divorce to when he dies, is she like a married woman or a divorcee? She cannot be alone with him, and needs 2 witnesses, lest they sleep together. and if they do, is the sex an act of betrothal and they would need a second divorce document? Or perhaps it wasn't sex as betrothal but he paid her just for sex, as an act of prostitution. But at the end of this page it describes her status as being like a married woman, in that he has ownership of any lost items she finds, any produce of her field belongs to him, and anything she earns. Which would include the money she earns prostituting herself to her soon-to-be-ex-husband... but why would a woman, who has just heard from her dying husband that he wants to treat her as a divorced woman after his death, try to sleep with him? to cancel her status as a divorcee so that she will be widow.... learning this page I couldn't stop thinking, if he wants to divorce you, why try to sleep with him... why?
but death is the only certainty for all mortal life.
even if there is ambiguity if she will be a widow, or just an ex-wife.
this page discusses the validity of a husband saying to his wife: this is your divorce if I die - and different versions of that statement, depending if it is connected to an on-going illness, or "from today, this is your divorce if I die" etc. Why say "if" - everybody's got to go sometime. If they are divorced or not is worthy of discussion. but one thing is certain. we will all die. no "if." and then it hit me. what isn't being discussed here is actually, he is saying to his wife: "if I die before you, then actually we are divorced." and what claim does a divorced wife have on the inheritance of his estate? From her point of view, is it better to be a widow or an ex-wife?
when they know what is valuable & what is not.
what is holy and what is profane.
what is owned and what is shared.
and what is ambiguous and what are the exact instructions that need to be followed to the letter.
Tuesday, 23 February 2016
behaviour that was meant to repair, and not destroy.
but not everything can be remedied.
God's name can't stand out and time may have passed.
and it is too late to make ammends.
the relatives vs the guardian
arguing over the land,
and the money.
because if you weren't closely connected to the dead, why would you care for their orphans?
but even if he's proved wrong, apparently it's a better world if she remains silent. and he doesn't admidt his mistake and take her back.
better for whom?